Thoughts on Couples and their Marriages

This topic has been prompted by the several conversations I've had today with my friends. In general I've been thinking why do people get married. Not the act but the people they marry. One friend worries about why her husband would marry her and if he knew that she wasn't perfect and had issues and baggage if he would have picked someone else. Another friend doesn't know why she married her husband because he is her complete opposite and so its hard sometimes for them to get along.

For starters I feel that regardless of people's marriages that they made that choice. No one makes people fall in love, to propose, to say yes and then together say I do. These are all choices that people individually make so they must live with the outcome that follows. But sometimes I wonder that maybe in certain circumstances had people been more mature or taken more time to think that perhaps not all would chose to marry or marry that specific person.

So many couples marry young that their choices might not all be the right one. But if they really love that person then most can make it work. Here is me on my soap box. Don't go for someone who is your complete opposite. Even people who have so much in common will still end up finding they have so many differences. But to start out with nothing in common, either you have to learn to like your spouses interests or you have nothing to share with each other.

I also believe that everyone has a little crazy in them and the people you marry should be accepting and understanding.