Thoughts on Couples and their Marriages

This topic has been prompted by the several conversations I've had today with my friends. In general I've been thinking why do people get married. Not the act but the people they marry. One friend worries about why her husband would marry her and if he knew that she wasn't perfect and had issues and baggage if he would have picked someone else. Another friend doesn't know why she married her husband because he is her complete opposite and so its hard sometimes for them to get along.

For starters I feel that regardless of people's marriages that they made that choice. No one makes people fall in love, to propose, to say yes and then together say I do. These are all choices that people individually make so they must live with the outcome that follows. But sometimes I wonder that maybe in certain circumstances had people been more mature or taken more time to think that perhaps not all would chose to marry or marry that specific person.

So many couples marry young that their choices might not all be the right one. But if they really love that person then most can make it work. Here is me on my soap box. Don't go for someone who is your complete opposite. Even people who have so much in common will still end up finding they have so many differences. But to start out with nothing in common, either you have to learn to like your spouses interests or you have nothing to share with each other.

I also believe that everyone has a little crazy in them and the people you marry should be accepting and understanding.

Today went really well. Other than not really being in the mood for work, still got tons accomplished. I love when I can get on a roll, but that didn't happen till the afternoon. Man everyday is different of when I get into the groove of things. I got to spend a long time on the phone with my best guy friend last night and even longer today with my best girlfriend Kacie, who is the greatest. Now it's the second day of not getting to work out because my instructor is sick and to instead of getting in some good cardio I made brownies. Pretty sure it wasn't a good idea, way to offset losing weight!

I also have decided that I'm ready and have been making extra effort to make new friends and put myself out there to make my life as busy and full as possible. I need to make the most out of the life I have right now. Today is the day!

So it continues...

Dear Diary,
I've decided to take a new appoach to life and improve my attitude. I read a great article that said the women should stop asking the question of 'why am I single?' and thinking of what's out there and change their thinking. The better question to ask is 'how can I make the most of whatever stage of life I'm in?' So that is my new approach, I'm going to stop worrying and try and enjoy my life where it is now. For starters I've got to get some new hobbies and find some more friends to do things with. Who those people will be I don't know yet and what kind of hobbies I would be interested in, beats me. But I'll figure it out!

Also I've decided to stop worrying about the guy I like. I keep making the effort for us to hang out and I continue to get rejected of sorts. Why do I want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. I want to be adored, be important and be loved. But while I wait for that to happen I need to try and be happy with where my life is right now.

Well its almost near the end of the year and this is where I'm at. Should I start titling these posts as 'Dear Diary' cause that's what it feels like.

Dear Diary,
Why does life have to be so hard? Really, I pretty much live life day to day and it seems impossible to stay happy. I might be happy for a bit and then the ball drops and happy turns into tears and freaking out. Forget happy, if I could just stay emotionally content all the time that would be enough, maybe.

At least I finally am working again and just saw a paycheck. Money is finally going back into the bank and no longer out of my savings. It took nearly a month to get my job sorted out, but now I know what I don't like. I need to really start taking my future and career more seriously. I need to figure out how to financially take care of myself, one day buy a house, a new car, etc. I can't wait anymore and not plan for the future career-wise.

My personal love life is another big issue. Is it so hard to like someone and have them like you back? I've become ok with being without any physical in my life but I would give anything to have someone apart of my life. I'd love to have someone to take care of, who needs me and who could be my best friend, confident and thinks the world of me. Where is this person? Should I push harder with the guy I like now, try meeting someone new, or just be content with my best friend and accepting we were meant for each other as singles together. This is a tough topic, and I just don't want to spend the rest of my life alone. Mr. Right please be out there for me!